“Harassing or threatening behavior that an individual engages in repeatedly, such as following a person, appearing at a person’s home or place of business, making harassing phone calls, leaving written messages or objects, or vandalizing a person’s property. These actions may or may not be accompanied by a credible threat of serious harm, and they may or may not be precursors to an assault or murder.”
(Tjaden and Thoennes)
Stalkers may do a number of things to frighten, annoy, or intimidate their victims. Some activities include:
Making multiple unwanted phone calls, including hang-ups
Following or waiting for victims
Sending multiple emails, Facebook messages, text messages, or other electronic communications
Monitoring phone calls or emails, surveillance, GPS tracking
Threatening to hurt the victim, their loved ones, or their pets
Sending unwanted gifts that could range from the “romantic” (flowers, cards) to the bizarre (trash, pornographic material, etc.)
Repeatedly driving by or loitering around a victim’s home, school, or place of work
Leaving notes for the victim to find
Vandalizing or otherwise damaging a victim’s property or possessions
Contacting family, friends, roommates, or co-workers to get information or learn the whereabouts of the victim
Searching public records or hiring someone to uncover information about the victim
Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
Do not communicate with a stalker or respond to attempts to make contact.
Tell friends, co-workers, roommates, and loved ones about what is going on. They can offer support and improve safety.
Inform security at work or school. Ask friends and co-workers to be on the lookout for anything suspicious.
Develop a safety plan. Consider taking different routes to and from work, school, home, and other locations.
Decide in advance what to do if the stalker shows up.
Document anything related to the stalking. Keep a record of phone calls, emails, gifts, notes, and appearances by the stalker. Include times, dates, locations, and witnesses. Photograph any property damage or personal injury.
Report all incidents to the police.
Think about getting a Protective Order or No Contact Order.
Stalking laws vary from state to state. Connecticut stalking law is outlined in Sec. 53a-181(c)(d)(e) of the Penal Code.
“…he recklessly causes another person to fear for his physical safety by willfully and repeatedly following or lying in wait for such other person.”
Stalking in the third degree is a Class B misdemeanor.
“…with intent to cause another person to fear for his physical safety, he willfully and repeatedly follows or lies in wait for such other person and causes such other person to reasonably fear for his physical safety.”
Stalking in the second degree is a Class A misdemeanor.
He has previously been convicted of first or second degree stalking.
OR the stalking violates a court order in effect at the time of the offense.
OR the victim is under the age of sixteen.
Stalking in the first degree is a Class D felony.
1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime.
87% of stalkers are male, and 78% of victims are female.
77% of female victims and 64% of male victims know their stalkers.
59% of female victims and 30% of male victims are stalked by a current or former intimate partner. In about 57% of these cases, the stalking behavior begins during the relationship.
52% of stalking victims were 18-29 years old and 22% were 30-39 years old when the stalking occurred.
81% of women stalked by a current or former partner have been physically assaulted by that partner.
31% of women stalked by a current or former partner have been sexually assaulted by that partner.
17% of American Indian/Alaskan Native women report being stalked during their lifetime. This is a significantly higher rate than women of other racial and ethnic backgrounds.
55% of female victims and 48% of male victims said their stalking was reported to the police.
21% of victims felt that they were stalked because the stalker wanted to control them. 20% felt they were stalked because the stalker wanted to keep the victim in a relationship, 16% felt that the stalker wanted to scare them, 12% were not sure why they were stalked. Only 7% felt they were stalked because the stalker was mentally ill or abusing drugs or alcohol.
Stalking episodes last 1.8 years on average. Instances involving partners or former partners tend to last significantly longer (2.2 years) than cases involving non-partners (1.1 years).
19% of victims said the stalking stopped because they (the victim) moved. 18% felt that the stalking stopped because the stalker found a new spouse or partner. 15% said the stalking stopped after the stalker received a warning from the police.
28% of female victims and 10% of male victims obtained a protective order against their stalker. Protective orders held by female victims were violated 69% of the time, and protective orders held by male victims were violated 81% of the time.
All statistics are taken from “Stalking in America: Findings From the National Violence Against Women Survey,” (Tjaden and Thoennes, 1998).